Motherly love by its very nature is unconditional. Mother loves the newborn infant because it is her child not because the child has fulfilled any specific condition or lived up to any specific expectation.Unconditional love corresponds in one of 'the deepest longings not only of the child but of every human being; on the other hand to be loved because of one's merit because one deserves it always leaves doubt: maybe I did not please the person whom I want to love me maybe this or that--there is always a fear that love could disappear. Furthermore "deserved" love easily leaves a bitter feeling that one is not loved for oneself that one is loved only because one pleases that one is in the last analysis not loved at all but used. No wonder that we all cling to the longing for motherly love as children and also as adults. The relationship to father is quite different. Mother is the