With the development of society. people's life become better and better. To children, parent are more and more dote on their children. Don't they children have a little harm. but, this is not right. If parent have too much dote to children, they children will lose confidence and can't independent. so, parents should to do something to they children and let they children can independent living. First, parents shoud let children to do something by theyself and can improve they capability. Secondly, parents should let they children to do homework by theyself. Thirld, parent should let they children to go school by theyself and it can make children reduce depend on they parent. parents also should let they children make decision by theyself and it can temper children's capability to deal with some problem. Only in this way, children can succeed andindependent living in life.