I walked onto the subway，See countless low-headed people refreshing Circle of Friends's comments. I log on to social networking sites，See countless net red, change your life for the praise in the comment area. I turned on the TV and saw all kinds of exposure stars cosmetic artist life, even News of the lives of ordinary people.
It is undeniable that with the development of science and technology, people's lives are more and more easy to enter the public's field of vision，The phenomenon of evaluating the lives of others is becoming more and more common, and we are therefore increasingly affected.
There are two reasons for the emergence of this phenomenon：The first is objective convenience. The Internet provides us with a platform to share our lives. WeChat, Weibo, qq and other types of software popular，It undoubtedly gives us more opportunities to evaluate the lives of others and a broader channel. Another more critical reason is that it is in line with people's subjective wishes. Who doesn't want attention? Who doesn't want to be sought after by thousands of people? Who doesn't want fame and fortune to be the winner of life? Yes, it is the desire of human nature to be recognized and valued, let us take the initiative to become Sina microblogging initiative to share life in Circle of Friends, and even take the initiative to create an objective permission for their own evaluation of the conditions. We can not refuse our innermost desires, so it is we who bring our lives into the public eye.
It is also this initiative that makes us hungry for evaluation from others. We ask for praise and comment. “Look, so many people have commented on me, I've stood up, so many people have followed me. ”We get a sense of satisfaction from it and find our own sense of existence. We are afraid of being alone, so we want to be evaluated, and then to evaluate others. We brushed out full comments and also brushed out a full sense of existence. More importantly, we gain a sense of participation and accomplishment in the process of commenting on others.
Some time ago, a netizen shared a letter of resignation online，The reason for his resignation was that he couldn't get out of bed too early at work. In the comments，In addition to praising his personalized comments, More comments are expressing dissatisfaction with the laziness of young people, or criticism related to it. From this we can easily see that the evaluators have taken the initiative to give this event a special meaning. They raise their personal behavior to group symptoms, and this joke rises to mental habits. We often think that evaluating one thing means that we are involved in one thing. “I evaluated, I participated, there are so many people who agree with my evaluation, I am also a person in this circle, I am not alone. ”In fact, this kind of thinking is also a manifestation of inferiority. How sad it is that we have no independent thinking and can only rely on the evaluation of others to seek recognition.
It can be said that we are deeply influenced by the word comment. Evaluation can produce many positive effects that stimulate self and promote self-progress, but more negative effects. We transform our lives according to the evaluation of others, and gradually lose our independent personality in the opinions of others. Without independent thinking, we will eventually get lost in the wave of evaluation.
For evaluation and evaluation, we may need a kind of personal self-cleaning snow in front of the door, regardless of the state of frost on others. If we want to think for ourselves, we have to start by identifying the evaluations of others. Among the many sounds, we have to find our own position and have independent thoughts. In this way, we naturally have such a good self-confidence. We don't have to get satisfaction from other people's evaluations. We have a sense of identity and pride, and we can judge how to choose whether others'evaluations are negative or not.
From the beginning of autonomy, the world can have less blind evaluation and more independent thoughts.